Fibromyalgia has many symptoms, for example, muscle tightness, fatigue, sleep difficulties, and joint stiffness to name a few. Wouldn’t it make sense that if the underlying cause were addressed properly that the above-named symptoms (and others) could be reduced or eliminated? Wouldn’t this “domino effect” help people live more vibrant lives, help them to sleep well, and have reduced pain overall? For any chance of positive results, we have to address the underlying causes head on, right? But…
There is no known cause.
So, let’s look to the unknown!
My clients have told me that after working with a wide variety of practitioners and modalities, typically the best relief they’ve experienced was temporary symptom management. While that can be good for many, my clients want a lot better than “good” — and most importantly, they’re willing to venture to the unknown with me to get there. They’re quite aware that what they’ve been doing isn’t working, and are ready and willing to make the necessary changes.
As a medical intuitive, I’m often privy to the underlying causes of most pain and illness. In the people I’ve worked with who have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, the most common lesser-known causes are a very high degree of sensitivity, and an unhealthy and unbalanced sense of responsibility for others. (Of course there are other factors, but for the purposes of this blog and looking to the lesser-known possibilites, these are the most common that I've seen and have succesfully worked with.)
These Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs—of which I’m one!) take on the energy, thoughts, and emotions of other people. When a high degree of sensitivity meets an unhealthy sense of responsibility, it makes some of us a “walking sponge.” Instead of being secure and strong in our own energy, we “empaths” are easily affected by what’s going on around us—and we feel a need to fix what’s happening even if it means we absorb it for the illusionary benefit of others.
Many books and practices recommend setting up firmer boundaries to deal with this. And once again, that’s good, but not great. Without extreme presence and constant management, this attempted “shielding” can block the desired creativity, intuition, and healing in addition to the unwanted fears, anger, and grief of others. This leaves HSPs stiff, fatigued, anxious or even depressed—or at minimum, frustrated!
Oftentimes, HSPs unconsciously attempt to block the incoming negative energy by tightening our muscles for protection. This is a logical defense mechanism and part of the parasympathetic nervous system’s (PNS) reaction to stress. Extended PNS stimulation weakens your energy fields and leaves you highly susceptible to absorbing what’s not yours. Thus, I invite you to call your condition, fibro-NOT-MY-algia.
What’s not yours has to be addressed very differently than what is yours. There are very specific steps that Highly Sensitive Persons can use to minimize and potentially eliminate the underlying causes of fibromyalgia and many other conditions that can be end results of mismanaged empathy. An introduction to these steps can be found at this blog: The Five Steps to Healing for the Highly Sensitive Person.
People respond differently to many modalities, and as frustrating as that can be, when looking at your condition from the expanded awareness of our interconnectedness, empathic illness seems more likely than not. For those HSPs I work with, this gives us hope whereas before there was only frustration and confusion.
Try this on like you’d try on a new coat. But remember, to see if it really fits well, you have to take the old coat off first.
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